Concept Review | How To Be Become Irresistible To Your Wife


18_largeUnderstand, Lead and Love Your Wife in Such a Powerful, Christ-Like Way that You Become Irresistible to Her as You Create a Marriage of Love and Peace by Ken Nair

“Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing and obtaineth favour of the Lord.” Proverb 18:22

There are two words in this Scripture that today, in our modern society, tend to lend themselves to potential misuse. The words are “good” and “thing.”

This verse, then, seems to be a passage that needs some clarification. I have heard men express gratitude toward their wives in many areas, ranging from cooking to sex. But seldom, if ever, have I heard expressions of gratitude for her spiritually significant thoughts.

Without clarification, the words “good” and “thing” can be defined by whomever the reader happens to be, man or woman. And, too often, a woman’s frame of reference about what Scripture is saying is influenced by a man’s thinking.

It’s a shame when we men think the good  which we would gain from a wife, that God is referring to, is that which will benefit our earth-bound, physical lives. Yes, the good can also benefit our physical lives, but I believe that God, being spiritual, intends that we would primarily derive mostly spiritual benefits from a wife.

Let’s do a word study to enhance our perspective, as we seek to understand this important verse.

Findeth (Hebrew: mâtsâ´, maw-tsaw´) to come forth, appear, exist, to attain, find, acquire, meet

Wife (Hebrew: ‘ishshâw, ish-shaw´) female, one together, wife, woman

Good (Hebrew: tôwb, tobe) good, better, best, in favor, fine

Thing (the word, thing, is not in the original language. It is added to give definition to the word, good.)

Obtaineth (Hebrew: pûwq, pook) to secure

Favor (Hebrew: râtsôwn, raw-tsone´) delight, favor, acceptable, good, pleasure

As we reflect on this creation we call woman, identified by God as Helper, it is important that we try to maintain God’s perspective as we reflect on this thing that will be for our “good”. That way we can derive the benefits that God intends.

Many of the physical tasks we face require two people. Doesn’t it make sense, then, that having a  constant  helper  in  our  spiritual  lives would also provide even more spiritual benefits? Unfortunately, most people do not consider that becoming spiritually mature requires two people in order to experience greater success.

It is typical for men to think independently. Even Scripture tells us we have a problem with our thinking. The Bible says, “Every man thinks he is right in his own eyes.” (Proverb 21:2) So, it is likely that a man’s unChrist-Likeness is not so apparent to him, even though it certainly is more noticeable to others.

This being the case, and considering the long-range and time-intensive investment necessary to accomplish the goal of Christ-Likeness in a man, how likely is it that anyone besides a wife would want to make that kind of time-intensive investment? Who, besides a wife, is willing to invest in a man’s personal, spiritual growth and run the risk of his reactions? Who, besides a wife, is willing to invest the kind of emotional stress that is inherent in helping a man (even if it is his own quest) in putting his flesh/sin nature to death, so that he might become more and more Christ-Like?

It seems that the person who is the most likely to make such a  commitment is the same person who stands to benefit the most. That person has to be around that man enough that he eventually sets aside all of his pretenses, resulting in  the real man being exposed — the hidden, unChrist-Like man. If a man’s genuine goal is to discover his flesh/sin nature, and put it to death in order to become more Christ-like, then it is indeed a blessing to have his own personal, ongoing revealer of his flesh, his soul’s enemy: which is his wife.

That is the kind of thinking that allows a man to understand God’s purpose when He wrote Proverb 18:22, paraphrased as follows:

He who, [because of God’s generous, loving foresight, made the attractions so strong that a man] would want to acquire a female to be one together with, attains [gains, is able to go, from good to better to] best, and he also is issued, [as furnished to him, has secured for him, as a part of God’s design for his life,] delight, favor, pleasure and goodness in the spiritual realm, as well as the physical realm.

Why? Because a husband has someone helping him to see his spiritual capacity to portray Christ (or not), so that he can attain that high calling in Christ Jesus. That man, becoming more and more like Christ, will be achieving a greater degree of spiritual maturity allowing him to care, as Christ would, for the spirits of all of those in his family for whom he is responsible.

That’s a whole lot of information coming from just eight words!

A man who acquires a woman as his wife will, as a natural by-product and if he will accept it, also acquire betterment for himself. This betterment is secured for him because it delights the Lord and gives the Lord great pleasure to favor a man in this way.

Now that is a good thing!

A prayer: God, it has always been Your plan to bless me. Help me to recognize more and more of Your ways and the blessings that accompany them. Let me recognize that every relationship, especially my relationship with my wife, is intended to bring blessings. Let me seek You and Your  blessings in all that I do. I ask in Jesus’ name. Amen.

 

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Words Of Encouragement | Live With Intention


FullSizeRenderLately I have really been meditating on intentional living. So many of us have ideas and thoughts concerning our walk with God, the relationships in our lives and the activities that we would like to do. Yet, we don’t live with intention.

My encouragement in this article, will be to get you thinking about your purpose, your goals, and then how are you planning on getting there. I have two phrases that my family can tell you I do not like, and they are “I will try” and “sorry”. We will leave the “sorry” comment for another article! However, we will address the “I will try”. It is so often an overused and meaningless phrase. Living with intention is not trying, but doing.

The Bible says, “For which one of you, when he wants to build a tower does not first sit down and calculate the cost to see if he has enough to complete it? Otherwise, when he has laid a foundation and is not able to finish it, all who observe it begin to ridicule him, saying, ‘This man began to build and was not able to finish.’ ” Luke 15:28-30. A wise person sits down and makes a plan; they lay a foundation. May I suggest that you sit down individually to work on a personal purpose statement and then as a couple or family to create a purpose statement for the family. Decide what you want to look back at, in 2017 that you envisioned for 2016 and see what you have accomplished. Men, decide what areas specifically you want to grow in.  This will allow you to be a better leader for the entire family. What a wonderful thing to do every year.

Once you make the plan, decide what you are going to do monthly and weekly. At the end of the day, go to your Heavenly Father and ask Him if He is pleased with your progress. Ask yourself, where did I succeed? Where do I need to work harder tomorrow? Do I need to reconcile anything from today? This is intentional living. Make a list of what you will do for the next day. Keep the list with you and look at it; do the items on the list! So many have grand plans, and yet do not accomplish anything. Change starts with a decision. Plans start with a decision. Decide daily what you can and will do.

God even has plans. He says in Jeremiah 29:11, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Do you know what His plans are for your life? Do you spend time daily in His Word? His Word is the foundation on which our plans rest. Husbands, do you discuss with your wife and get her thinking about the areas that need a plan in your life and in the home? Do you pray about these plans together?

Eph. 5:15 says, “Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise.” And James 5:12 says, “Above all, my brothers and sisters, do not swear—not by heaven or by earth or by anything else. All you need to say is a simple “Yes” or “No.” Otherwise you will be condemned.” Living intentionally is being careful and wise on how we live; then doing what we set out to do. When we wake up in the morning, the first thing we should do is to pray over the list we made together as a couple the night before. Just think about how much closer our walk with God will be and how we can look back at what we have intentionally completed if we make the decision to live life with purpose!

Once the decision is made, do it! Proverbs 23:7 says, “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he: Eat and drink, says he to you; but his heart is not with you.” Will you be a person who thinks in his heart and does it; or a person who thinks it and your “heart is not with you”…aka “I will try”. Let’s choose to live intentionally, daily.

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Concept Review | Spiritual Truth


There is perhaps no greater danger than an intellectual response to a spiritual truth. Watch Ken Nair do a word study on 1 John 4:4 to gain greater understanding of this verse.

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Daily Devotional | Intentional Living


HangoutwithekenLately I have really been meditating on intentional living. So many of us have ideas and thoughts concerning our walk with God, the relationships in our lives and the activities that we would like to do. Yet, we don’t live with intention.

My encouragement in this article, will be to get you thinking about your purpose, your goals, and then how are you planning on getting there. I have two phrases that my family can tell you I do not like, and they are “I will try” and “sorry”. We will leave the “sorry” comment for another article! However, we will address the “I will try”. It is so often an overused and meaningless phrase. Living with intention is not trying, but doing.

The Bible says, “For which one of you, when he wants to build a tower does not first sit down and calculate the cost to see if he has enough to complete it? Otherwise, when he has laid a foundation and is not able to finish it, all who observe it begin to ridicule him, saying, ‘This man began to build and was not able to finish.’ ” Luke 15:28-30. A wise person sits down and makes a plan; they lay a foundation. May I suggest that you sit down individually to work on a personal purpose statement and then as a couple or family to create a purpose statement for the family. Decide what you want to look back at, in 2017 that you envisioned for 2016 and see what you have accomplished. Men, decide what areas specifically you want to grow in.  This will allow you to be a better leader for the entire family. What a wonderful thing to do every year.

Once you make the plan, decide what you are going to do monthly and weekly. At the end of the day, go to your Heavenly Father and ask Him if He is pleased with your progress. Ask yourself, where did I succeed? Where do I need to work harder tomorrow? Do I need to reconcile anything from today? This is intentional living. Make a list of what you will do for the next day. Keep the list with you and look at it; do the items on the list! So many have grand plans, and yet do not accomplish anything. Change starts with a decision. Plans start with a decision. Decide daily what you can and will do.

God even has plans. He says in Jeremiah 29:11, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Do you know what His plans are for your life? Do you spend time daily in His Word? His Word is the foundation on which our plans rest. Husbands, do you discuss with your wife and get her thinking about the areas that need a plan in your life and in the home? Do you pray about these plans together?

Eph. 5:15 says, “Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise.” And James 5:12 says, “Above all, my brothers and sisters, do not swear—not by heaven or by earth or by anything else. All you need to say is a simple “Yes” or “No.” Otherwise you will be condemned.” Living intentionally is being careful and wise on how we live; then doing what we set out to do. When we wake up in the morning, the first thing we should do is to pray over the list we made together as a couple the night before. Just think about how much closer our walk with God will be and how we can look back at what we have intentionally completed if we make the decision to live life with purpose!

Once the decision is made, do it! Proverbs 23:7 says, “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he: Eat and drink, says he to you; but his heart is not with you.” Will you be a person who thinks in his heart and does it; or a person who thinks it and your “heart is not with you”…aka “I will try”. Let’s choose to live intentionally, daily.

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Words of Encouragement | Looking Deeper


80b6c25734b8177219779a990ff77134Years ago, we dug a well. The people we hired came out and set up their equipment and began to drill. They had to go through feet of shale, which is a very hard rock. About 700 feet later, they finally hit water!

Do you ever have days of feeling like you are “digging through feet of shale”? Life can dish us things that are down-right hard. Emotions of weariness, exhaustion, sorrow, depression, anxiety (along with a long list of other emotions) can flood our spirit.

The Lord is our source of Living Water. In John 4:14, Jesus Himself says, “but whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life.”

As you go throughout your day “digging” in this well called “life”, please remember that Jesus is offering us something. He clearly is not forcing us, as we can see in this passage, to drink. It is a choice that we make. We can either sit and wallow, or we can drink.

Let’s take some advice from Isaiah 12:3-6. It says, “Therefore with joy you will draw water from the wells of salvation. And in that day you will say: ‘Praise the Lord, call upon His name; declare His deeds among the peoples, make mention that His name is exalted. Sing to the Lord, for He has done excellent things; this is known in all the earth. Cry out and shout, O inhabitant of Zion, for great is the Holy One of Israel in your midst!’”

  • With JOY we will draw water from the well. Choose to rejoice in the good things. Praise His holy name. He has saved us!
  • Call upon His name. Ask Him for His help. He is the one we go to. His name is POWERFUL.
  • Declare the great and excellent things He has done. Let people know what He has done. Remind people that He is to be lifted up.
  • Cry out and shout…sing songs of praise to Him. He is the Holy One. And, He IS in our midst.

It is easy to get caught up in the miseries of life. It is a choice of what we decide to do with life’s trials. But, let’s encourage one another to go to the Living Water and drink; let’s share with others about this Water!

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Concept Review | An Interesting Phenomenon


anger (2)1 Corinthians 13:2And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, (love) I am nothing.”

   A good question might be, how could a person have the gift of prophecy, understand all mysteries, have all knowledge and have sufficient faith to move mountains, all of which appear to be characteristics found in someone who is close to God, and still not possess love?

Exodus 7:11 reveals that sorcerers can perform astounding acts.

Acts 16:16 illustrates that even an evil-spirited seer has the ability to announce the truth (an aspect of prophecy) to benefit his own credibility.

The Book of Revelation states that there are false prophets in the world.

This raises a serious question! If we possess these most wonderful attributes, how do we detect whether we actually are of God?  That’s the point of this verse from Paul’s first letter to the Corinthians.

There is one characteristic that evil cannot duplicate or imitate: Love.

Why? Because God is Love. And God became a man, Jesus Christ, to give us a living example of His genuine love.

However, Scripture repeatedly expresses that we are not able to naturally think as God does. Therefore, it is not wise to trust our own evaluations of  whether we convey Christ-Like love.

God has provided a way for a man to legitimately validate his capacity to be loving. That way is through the effects we have on others. However, the primary source for a husband is through his wife. She is the “help” that God speaks of in Genesis.

As a wife validates her husband’s capacity to illustrate love to her, and since God is Love, there will not be a question about whether her husband’s ways are actually of God.

And, if the kind of love that God intends a man to convey to the world is validated by his  wife, then he also is able to teach that Christ-Like love by example to his children.

God wants a man to value his wife’s reflections on his capacity to be loving, and to understand His design for husbands and wives. Then, a man can detect if his ways are actually of God!

A prayer: God, I need to open my eyes and ears and be receptive to my wife’s expressions of whether I am conveying Your kind of love to her. I need the courage to discipline myself, accordingly. Show me creative ways to rearrange my thinking in preparation for this challenge. I ask it in Jesus’ name. Amen.

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Daily Devotional | Jesus as a Young Boy


asaReading the Old Testament many times over the years is something I have loved to do. It is where I find myself going when I want to really feel close to God and see what He is wanting of me. Sometime back, I shared that we were in Munds Park and Ken was writing in his book and I was sitting outside on the closed in porch. The rain was coming down and thunder and lightning all around me. I was reading the Old Testament and underlining all of the words that God said. Wow, what an experience and now I am doing it again. This time in my own home; not that I wouldn’t want to be in the same place with all the thunder and lighting.

My time with God has taken me to a different time and place. I read something that made me start thinking about Jesus as a young boy growing up. Most of my life I have thought about Him as a baby and when He gave His life for me on the cross, but there is not much about Him as a boy and a young man. This created a desire in me to search to see if there is something about His life as a young man. I began to think about when Mary was holding Him in her arms and when He started to crawl and take His first steps. It helps me to put myself in their life emotionally and think of how close His dad and mom were to Him. My mind then drifts to thinking about what He was going to be doing for us and to think that Mary knew that God had set Him apart; so she knew God wanted to use Him in a special way. What an honor.

When I think about little boys or girls learning to crawl, I visualize Mary and Joseph watching Jesus; smiling and talking with each other about how much they loved Him. When I think about little boys and girls learning to walk, I can just imagine Mary and Joseph sitting down on the floor helping Him make it over to their arms. I remember when my girls learned to walk I was so excited for their first steps. I’m sure they were excited also.

When I think about Jesus lying in His mother or father’s arms and how Jesus must have felt in their arms, it brings back memories of me holding my girls and looking into their eyes and feeling overwhelmed with joy that they were mine. All of this helps His life become real to me.

I’m sure that Jesus played with all the children in His family and how He must have sometimes gotten His feelings hurt or if He fell and hurt Himself, and how Mary would have been there to comfort Him. It helps His life jump out of the pages in the Bible and become authentic to me.

I reflected about the time they went to Jerusalem for celebrating the feast and on their way home they realized He was left behind.  When they went back to find Him, there He was, as a teenager, preaching in the synagogue. Can’t you just picture all the priest’s thoughts and their wondering, who is this young man that He would be able to preach to them? That must have been the beginning of Mary and Joseph knowing that God had started His work in Jesus. Wouldn’t it be something if you had a boy and you found Him preaching to the church about God’s ways? Luke 2:42 says He was 12 years old!

Sadly then, we don’t hear about Jesus from that point on until He was older.  In my new desire to search for more information about His youth, I found all kinds of things about Jesus being in Britain. I typed in “was Jesus in England?” and among various links, I found an article that I have included in my Nancy’s Notes. I really enjoyed it, and thought you would as well.

Please note that we do not know where Jesus was in the “missing years” for sure, yet it is fun to read this account. What we do know for sure is Jesus did grow up into a man and was willing to go through all that He went through, for us. What love He has shown us and because of His example we need to thank Him every day. Personally, I always want to thank our Creator for His love for us; that He would give us such a gift of Love.

CHRIST in BRITAIN

The study of Jesus in Britain touches on the Royal family, the establishment of the Church, Paul’s visit to Britain, and even the founding of the Roman church.

Various and many historical documents indicate that, after Jerusalem, the first Christian church was established in England. It’s founder, and founder as well of many seminaries, was Joseph of Arimathea, the uncle of the Virgin Mary. He was Jesus’ great uncle. Joseph was a rich merchant with a large fleet of ships that ran the tin trade for the Roman Empire, between England and the Mediterranean.

As Jesus’ great uncle, Joseph became Jesus’ Guardian (by Law, as next of kin) when Mary’s husband Joseph died early in Jesus’ life. He took Jesus with him on his journeys to Glastonbury, England. The place we know as Avalon; the King Arthur Avalon. This is the location of the first Christian church built above ground.

To paraphrase an old saying, “All Christian roads lead to England.”

The following information was taken from two of the many volumes on the subject of Jesus’ spending time in Britain. They are, the Traditions of Glastonbury, by E. Raymond Capt, and Did Our Lord Visit Britain, by C.C. Dobson.

ABSENT EVIDENCE

If Jesus was indeed absent from Judea from age twelve to age thirty, as some believe, we should be able to find evidence that this was the case. In Matt 17 Jesus was being asked for the Stranger’s tax. They seemed aware that Jesus lived in Capernaum. They didn’t know if he was exempt from the tax, having been gone for a long time.

John the Baptist, who was Jesus’ cousin, and spent time with Jesus as they grew up, was very uncertain as to Jesus’ identity at his baptism. If Jesus had spent the “lost years” in Judea, he and John would certainly have seen each other at the three yearly Feasts.

Then we find two accounts of Jesus’ identity being questioned. “Is this not Joseph’s son?” “Brought up here?” (Luke 4) “Is not this the carpenter’s son?” (Matt 14) And in John 1 we find that Nathaniel, who only lived five miles from Nazareth, doesn’t know Jesus. Capt says that Nathaniel was from Cana.

JESUS’ VISITS

Of Jesus’ visits to England, scattered evidence abounds. Here’s a short scenario from C.C. Dobson:

“As a boy He was brought merely for a visit by Joseph of Arimathea on one of his voyages. Later as a young man He returned and settled at Glastonbury for the purpose of quiet study, prayer, and meditation. Here He erected for Himself a small house of mud and wattles.” Dobson goes on to present historical evidence.

In a letter to Pope Gregory, St. Augustine states that there was a church “constructed by no human art, but divinely constructed (or by the hands of Christ Himself), for the salvation of His people.”

The historian, Gildas, says Jesus’ “Light and precepts” were “afforded…to this island during the …last year of the reign of Tiberius. Tiberius retired to Caprae in A.D. 27.

William of Malmesbury includes in his writings the contents of a letter given by King Ina to Glastonbury, 700 AD.”To the ancient church, situate in the place called Glastonbury (which Church the Great High Priest and Chiefest Minister formerly through His own ministry and that of angels…..” This confirms Gildas’ statement that Jesus had a ministry at Glastonbury.

The historical records called the Domesday Surveys, also bear witness to Jesus’ presence in Glastonbury. These surveys state that Glastonbury contained 12 hides (160 acre parcels) of land that “have never paid tax.” This was because the King Arviragus gave these parcels to Joseph of Arimathea when he arrived in England in 37 AD.

TRADITIONS

Four of the many traditions of Jesus coming to England are discussed in Capt’s book.

Ancient carvings on the stone arch of Place Manor Church has an insignia of an anchor, a lamb and cross. The accompanying pictographs tell the story of Jesus and His uncle coming to Place for tin.

Another traditional story is that of Jesus teaching the miners of Cornwall how to smelt tin from ore.

Old Cornwall mining Ordinance maps show two interesting names. “Corpus Christi” (Body of Christ), and “Wheel of Jesus” (wheel is a Cornish name for mine). Also found in abundance in Cornwall’s mining area are “Tunic Crosses.” These crosses picture a Christian cross on one side and the image of a young lad dressed in a short tunic; obviously not a picture of a crucified or risen Christ.

This quote from Capt relates the Mendips mining area to Joseph and Jesus. “Traditions among the hill folk of Somerset relate that Joseph, after first seeking tin from the Scillies (islands) and Cornwall, came to the Mendips and was accompanied on several occassions by the boy Jesus. At the parish Church of Priddy, high on top of the Mendips, they have an old saying: ‘As sure as our Lord was at Priddy.’ And a carol sung be the children of Priddy begins: “Joseph was a tin merchant, a tin merchant, a tin merchant, and goes on to describe him arriving from the sea in a boat.”

Much has been written about the Lost Years of Jesus. Many accounts place him in India. One South American tradition sounds very much like Jesus visiting that continent. In fact, many say that the complete and speedy success of the Spanish invaders was due to this tradition; that the Visitor prophesied that He would return.

Consider. If Joseph had a fleet of ships, that gave Jesus access to worldwide travel. Do not doubt for even a second that world travel to ALL lands was possible. There is abundant evidence to prove the fact.

The traditions of Glastonbury and Cornwall form the following scenario:

Joseph of Arimathea was an uncle of the Virgin Mary, being a younger brother of her father. He gained his wealth as an importer in the tin trade, which existed between Cornwall and Phoenicia. On one of his voyages he took Our Lord with him when a boy. Our Lord either remained in Britain or returned later as a young man, and stayed in quiet retirement at Glastonbury. Here he erected for himself a small house of mud and wattle. Later Joseph of Arimathea, fleeing from Palestine, settled in the same place and erected a mud and wattle church there.

The contents of these several pages on the Cradle of Christianity will be found to overlap. That can’t be helped, as the whole topic takes in many areas of study which all relate importantly to each other. So the study of Jesus in Britain touches on the Royal family, the establishment of the Church, Paul’s visit to Britain, and even the founding of the Roman church.

Most of all if want to thank Jesus for being willing to go through all that he went through for us and finally is hung on a cross. What love He has shown us and because of His example we need to thank Him every day. I also want to thank our Creator for His love for us that He would give us such a gift of Love.

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