“Do not let any part of your body become an instrument of evil to serve sin. Instead, give yourselves completely to God, for you were dead, but now you have new life. So use your whole body as an instrument to do what is right for the glory of God.” Romans 6:13 (NLT)
I have heard the idea of asking, “How can I be a present to God?”during the Christmas time. Also, there is the New Year’s resolution where each year we want to be better about our walk with God, right? However you look at it, we are supposed to give ourselves to God completely; and if December or January is when we actually are reminded of this then that is encouraging!
Use our whole body as an instrument to do what is right…hmm. Does that include our mouth? Ouch. That is hard, isn’t it? Our mouths say and do things almost on their own. In Psalm 141:3, Proverbs 21:23 and in the book of James, we see the value of guarding the mouth.
Here is a thought. When we first get married, we see little imperfections in our husband and pass them off as insignificant; we don’t share those things. We regard that as guarding our mouths. I also know that, often early on, we try to encourage our husbands by building them up and state that they are amazing when actually; they can be hurting our spirit/hearts. We so hope that if we say that he is amazing that he will be encouraged and become motivated to become more sensitive and Christ-like.
Or, perhaps you do share and it backfired and you learned rather quickly to guard your mouth; you stop talking. What if I told you that I am not sure that this is what guarding your mouth means? Actually, that is silence. Another way wives can respond is to lash out and get very angry saying all kinds of things that we later even regret.
Let me encourage you to be honest and share what is on your heart. If you hold it in, so often it blows up and actually becomes destructive. You can put a guard on your mouth by asking God to show you how you can honestly, constructively, share the things that you see. Then, once you have shared, don’t be the one to make it happen! Allow the Holy Spirit to do His work. So often we jump in and think it is our job to become the Holy Spirit’s instrument, trying to convict our husbands. I know it is extremely frustrating to share and sometimes see what appears to us as no improvement. However, we do not know what the Lord is doing in our husband’s heart. My encouragement to wives is to really understand that no matter what we say; it is God business to change hearts. We are a tool that God has designed to be on our husband’s team and help him to see His heart. Sometimes we are at our wits end. It is better to be honest and share than to be silent and not share or even “lie” and say things are fine. But, I find that when I do not guard my mouth it only leads me to a place where I really regret how God sees me. Ladies, if you need help in learning how to be honest and yet guard your mouth, please contact Nancy to set up an appointment. She would love to help you walk through this!